Being Zen

 Being Zen is not natural for me but few things i have come to realize that can set you up on that path -

a) Dont take yourself seriously - Ur ego takes vishwaroopam and goes after every cheeky comment, provocation only if you take yourself too seriously . Unless the stakes are mind blowingly high do not even try - laugh & smile slights, provocations off or brush things lightly.  Cho is a great exponent of this and he epitomized this .  Buddha said once ' Staying calm in the face of rage or anger is the best way to hit back '. 

b) Karma yoga -  Keep doing things with honesty expecting absolutely nothing in return . Do not stretch on things which are going to waste too much time and believe if you are taken for a ride.  Learning to say No works best.  Dont expect acknowledgement and adulations for every good thing you do. 

c) Do not hurt anyone -  Words can inflict enormous damage all around , more than what you can begin to conceive. Try to stay diplomatic and you dont need to 'call spade a spade' all the time . Everybody around have too much ego to entertain your opinions and importantly people can only change from within . 

d) Healthy balance of Sleep , Exercise and Eating on time helps you in staying 'present' .  Try to Listen more it is said you can process 900 words by listening in a minute and speaking is only a fraction so the more you improve observations and listening gives you well rounded perspective - stops you from quick judgements.